Areas of counseling

Mild Depression

Depression occurs with illness, death, stress, failed relationships, family situations, abuse, work or financial problems. A common thread in depression is incident to loneliness and negative thoughts. Therapy allows you to discuss your loss, get feedback and develop a plan to move forward.

Therapy will help you deal with your concerns. Sometimes these concerns can lead to isolation resulting in loneliness, change in eating habits, over-drinking and difficulty in socializing and how to move on with your life.

Guilt

As women, we all have it. Guilt means you feel as though you have no control or ability to change your situation – you only worry. Women are reputed to be multitaskers. Sometimes we assume we can “do it all” and as a result get overwhelmed.

Grief Counseling

Our self-esteem may crumble when we have a loss that results in grief. We believe we have control of our future and suddenly we are without a job to support our family, experience a divorce, have a disabling medical problem or lose a spouse or family member. The most critical part of grief is how we decide to pick up the pieces and move on without being paralyzed in the process.

Grief is the emptiness inside. It is the void, the darkness, the abyss.

Loss results in a feeling of grief. Grief may cause raw feelings to surface and we are uncertain on how to handle the situation.

Grief, regardless of the cause, has the same stages. How we handle it and how long we go through theses stages is completely different for each person. It is critical to move on with your life, start dating or find another career, if you lost one. Now you can share your grief online with Dr. Wendy James and explore ways of overcoming it.

Interpersonal Relationships – we all need to share our life with someone

As women, we want to give and share in a relationship. This session will allow you to share your thoughts, help you understand your feelings about past relationships, dating strategies, finding the right man, enhancing an established relationship, keeping the romance fresh and what to do if the romance is fading.

Without sharing with another, what do we really have?

Balancing career with marriage and children

In Dr. Wendy’s seminal study, “Perspectives of Executive Women: Life Choices in Balancing Career, Marriage and Children”, it provides real data that contradicts anecdotal beliefs that women can’t have it all.

We can! .

Mental Health in Recovery from Illness or Injury

Recovery from illness or an injury can cause mental stress and depression for both the affected and for the caregiver. Suddenly, your life has changed and you are unable to do your normal activities. The process of recuperation can be slow and it can affect your mental attitude. You are dependent on others to help you.

At some point, the pain killers must go and you will have to deal with the physical and mental challenges of recovery. The goal is to be able to optimize your rehabilitation. It can help you to stay positive and balanced.

The caretaker’s life is also drastically changed because your loved one is dependent upon you. Yet, you need to continue with your own life, work and activity. If you go out with friends or take some time for yourself, then you might feel wrong because your loved one is suffering the pain. The reality is the caretaker’s life drastically changes as well.

Therapy can help things get better and help you manage the recovery process more effectively..

Anger Management

Anger is a normal emotion you can control. If your anger has escalated to being out of control then anger management therapy is needed. Therapy can provide the  insight you need into methods to recognize your internal anger signs, prior to emotional outbursts that have the potential to cripple and destroy life with your family, work, or the law. Gradually you can learn to manage your anger and learn to deal with this emotion in a healthy way.

Quality of Life Dynamics

We need to balance four areas in our life: psychology, nutrition, bio-mechanics, and medicine.

  • Psychology is mental health as defined by the healthy thinking that allows us to develop healthy relationships with our family and friends.
  • Nutrition is the proper eating to provide our bodies’ fuel and energy.
  • Bio-mechanics is physical activities through sports, stretching, weight lifting, and meditation.
  • Medicine, through physical checkups, can help identify issues that may be affecting our moods and overall mental health.

If you are alone, you just have not found the intuitive man

Midori Snyder and I share the same image of the creative and complex woman. She’s unique to herself, but willing to share those considerable gifts with a man capable of intuiting the wealth of her worth hidden beneath the skin.

It’s not your fault. Sooner or later you will meet the intuitive man. They’re out there!

Never forget, a woman makes her own magic.  It is the magic of her energy, excitement and joy thaty radiates from her.

It is that irrestible allure that we, as women, have developed and perpetuated for a millennia. That mystery  has helped us to level the social/sexual playing field, solidifying our place in society.

The goal of therapy is to build your confidence and exploring strategies to enhance it.

Playing the Victim

The easy way out is to blame someone else and fail to take responsibility for our actions.

Sometimes we fall into the victim syndrome. When we play the victim, we blame our previous boyfriends, our ex’s, our childhood and our parents.

Psychologists always ask questions so the patient can search for the answer and develop a solution. Awareness of your past is great. It leads you to make better decisions in the future.  Just do not play the “victim” to excuse your present actions and justify your current unhappiness.

It takes awareness and work.

Fear

There is rational and irrational fear. The question is at what point is it rational or irrational fear?
Fear is an emotional response to danger that is real. Anxiety is a result of fear or can cause fear. Irrational fear is when we become fearful in our community based on what happened on the news or Internet.

Irrational fear of the unknown or a perceived fear is different from a real, and therefore, rational fear.